Mary Hartje - The Twin Flame Alchemist - Twin Flame Coach, Spiritual Teacher & Consciousness Mentor

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Why Waiting On A “Relationship” With Your Twin Flame is Keeping You in Separation

Hey, this is Mary, the Twin Flame Alchemist, and today we’re diving deep into one of the biggest mistakes that 99% of twin flames make—one that keeps them stuck in separation, spinning their wheels, and feeling frustrated.

It’s a hard truth, but one we need to talk about: waiting for your twin flame to return or feeling like you need the relationship to feel fulfilled, whole, or happy is a recipe for pain and stagnation. If this resonates with you, stay with me, because by the end of this post, you’ll have the tools and clarity to break free from this waiting cycle and take a powerful step forward on your journey.

The Waiting Game: Why It’s a Trap

I see this all the time in the twin flame community. People are waiting—waiting for their twin flame to text, to return, to commit.

They’re asking the same questions over and over:

- When will my twin flame come back?

- What are they thinking about me?

- Why are they acting like this?

But here’s the real question: What are you doing while you’re waiting? Are you putting your life on hold, holding your happiness hostage until they “show up”?

This is where many twin flames get it wrong. You’re not meant to wait for someone else to make you feel complete. That’s separation consciousness in action, and it’s the exact opposite of what this journey is about.

The Truth About the Twin Flame Journey

Let’s cut through the noise and get to the heart of this journey. There are only two unshakable truths about twin flames:

1. You share the same soul essence.

Your twin flame is your same soul at the moment of creation, manifested in another body. When you look at them, you’re essentially looking at another version of yourself.

2. You share the same consciousness.

Since we live in a mental universe, your thoughts and beliefs create your reality. Your twin flame acts as your divine mirror, reflecting everything within you—both the light and the shadows.

This journey isn’t about “romance”, as our culture & society has sold it to us.

Let me say it again for the people in the back: This is not a romantic journey. Now, does that mean you can’t ever have a romantic relationship with your twin flame? Absolutely not. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are the creator of your reality, and you set the rules for your journey.

But here’s the kicker: The energy driving your desire for union matters. If you’re coming from a place of lack—believing you can’t be happy or whole without them—you’re operating in separation energy. And that energy creates more of the same: waiting, longing, and pain.

Why “Needing” a Relationship is Blocking Union.

When you’re obsessing over when your twin flame will come back or why they’re not acting the way you want, you’re reinforcing the belief that something is missing. You’re saying to the universe, “I’m not complete until they’re here.”

Guess what happens when you hold that belief? The universe reflects it back to you through your twin flame. They’ll continue to “run,” pull away, or behave unpredictably because they’re mirroring the separation consciousness you’re projecting.

This journey isn’t about them coming back. It’s about you coming home—to yourself, your soul, your true essence.

How to Shift Out of Separation Consciousness

The solution is simple, but it’s not easy: You have to stop looking outside yourself for fulfillment and start aligning with your soul energy.

Here’s how to begin:

1. Recognize the Mirror.

Everything your twin flame is doing (or not doing) is showing you where you’re out of alignment with your soul. Instead of asking, *“Why are they acting this way?”* ask yourself, *“What is this behavior reflecting about my own thoughts, beliefs, or energy?”*

2. Let Go of Waiting.

Stop putting your life on hold. Your twin flame isn’t the destination; your soul alignment is. Focus on becoming the happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself *now*—not someday when they return.

3. Shift Your Perspective.

See this journey for what it is: a path of ascension and consciousness mastery. It’s about raising your vibration, stepping into your power, and realizing that you are already whole and complete.

4. Balance Your Energy.

When you align with your soul and balance your energy, you become magnetically attractive to your twin flame. Not because you need them, but because you’re embodying the essence of your shared soul.

The Master Key to Union

Here’s the most important thing I want you to take away: Union begins within. When you stop obsessing, stop waiting, and stop needing, you create the space for your twin flame to show up naturally.

Union doesn’t happen because you chase it. It happens because you ARE IT.

When you align with your soul and embody your divine essence, your twin flame has no choice but to reflect that back to you.

Ready to Master Your Journey?

If you’re tired of the waiting game and ready to step into alignment, I’ve got two incredible resources for you:

1. Free Masterclass: “12 Mistakes Keeping You in Separation.”

This Masterclass will show you exactly what to stop doing right now to break free from separation energy.

2. Twin Flame Alchemy Mastermind Course & Group.

This 7-week intensive program lays out the entire twin flame journey, helping you master your consciousness and align with your soul. Within 90 days, you’ll feel balanced, empowered, and magnetically aligned with union energy.

Sign up for the free masterclass and get a complimentary 30-minute consultation with me to see if the mastermind is the right fit for you.

Final Thoughts

This journey is about you. It’s about ascending into your highest potential, mastering your consciousness, and realizing that everything you’ve ever desired is already within you.

Stop waiting. Start aligning. Your soul—and your twin flame—are waiting for you to come home to yourself.

Click the links in the below, and let’s get started on transforming your journey today.

With love and alignment,

Mary

What’s Next? How to Master the Journey

I know this journey can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s much simpler than you’re making it out to be. All you need to do is focus on balancing your energy, clearing fear-based beliefs, and aligning with your soul.

If you’re tired of running in circles, I’ve created resources to help you:

1. Free Masterclass: “12 Mistakes Keeping You in Separation”

This mini-course is packed with insights to help you identify and clear the common blocks on this journey. Over 99% of twin flames are making these mistakes—don’t let yourself be one of them.

2. Twin Flame Alchemy Mastermind

In this group, I’ll teach you how to master your journey, balance your energy, and create the life you deserve. This isn’t about tricks or techniques—it’s about alignment with your truth.

For the next few days only, I’m offering early bird pricing. Don’t miss your chance to join at this exclusive rate.

3. One-on-One Coaching

If you’re ready to go even deeper, I’m here for private sessions where we’ll dive into your unique journey and clear the blocks keeping you stuck.

The Truth You Need to Embrace

The twin flame journey isn’t about them. It’s about you.

Stop focusing on the external, and start turning inward. When you master your energy, your reality will shift. This is your ascension path, your awakening, and your soul’s journey home.

If you’re ready to stop chasing, start aligning, and truly understand the purpose of this connection, I’m here to guide you.

Click the links below to sign up for the mini-course, join the mastermind, or book a session with me. Let’s transform your journey together.

You’ve got this. You’re in control. Now, let’s do the work.

If you’re ready to take this deeper, I’m here. The Twin Flame Alchemy Mastermind opens on November 15. It’s seven transformative weeks designed to take you from separation to alignment, from resistance to peace. And yes, it’s powerful.

Click below to learn more and join us on this journey to union, starting with your own self-worth.

In love and alignment,

Mary

Free Masterclass Reveals: 12 Myths & Mistakes That Create Twin Flame Separation