Twin Flames: What Is “Surrender” & How To Know If You’re There
Surrender on the Twin Flame Journey: What It Truly Means
In the intricate and often overwhelming Twin Flame journey, surrender is a term that is frequently misunderstood. It’s not uncommon to hear others interpret surrender as "giving up," especially in online forums or casual discussions. However, as I’ve seen time and again with clients, this misconception is not only unhelpful but can keep you stuck in patterns of pain and confusion.
True surrender on the Twin Flame journey is not about helplessly waiting for the physical form of your Twin Flame to return. Instead, it’s an act of profound self-alignment and an intentional decision to turn inward, anchoring yourself in your soul energy. Let’s explore what surrender truly means, what it does not mean, and how to achieve this critical state of being.
What Surrender is NOT
Before we can grasp the essence of surrender, let’s dispel some myths.
1. Surrender is NOT Giving Up
Many people equate surrender with throwing in the towel, saying, “I’m done.” This mindset arises from frustration and the belief that nothing can be done to influence the connection. This is not surrender; it’s resignation—a state of disempowerment where you relinquish your agency.
2. Surrender is NOT Waiting for Your Twin Flame
The idea that surrender means sitting in emotional pain while passively waiting for your Twin Flame’s physical form to “fix” the situation is deeply flawed. This approach outsources your journey to another person and keeps you trapped in a cycle of waiting. It’s an abdication of responsibility for your own energy.
3. Surrender is NOT Helplessness
Helplessness on the journey often stems from a belief that the physical form of your Twin Flame—often referred to as the Divine Masculine or your other self—holds all the power. This mindset is rooted in fear and linear thinking, where you measure progress by external circumstances rather than inner alignment.
What Surrender Truly Is
Surrender is an active, intentional process. It is a return to your soul, a state of being where you align fully with your energy and allow your soul to lead the journey. Let’s break it down further.
1. Surrender is Taking Responsibility for Your Energy
You are a magical manifester. Your energy is either attracting or repelling the physical form of your Twin Flame at all times. Surrender involves recognizing this truth and taking full accountability for your energetic state.
By aligning with your soul energy, you begin to magnetize what is meant for you rather than pushing it away through fear, doubt, or attachment.
2. Surrender is Returning to Soul Frequency
Your soul frequency and your Twin Flame’s soul frequency are one and the same. The journey is designed to bring you back to this shared frequency. When you surrender, you dive deeply into your soul energy, embodying it fully. This is not about escaping or avoiding pain but rather integrating and transforming it.
3. Surrender is Embodying Your Divine Feminine Energy
Surrender often requires embracing your subconscious, which is symbolically represented as the ocean in many spiritual traditions. Diving into this ocean means immersing yourself in your divine feminine energy, which is the receptive, intuitive, and creative aspect of your being.
This is not limited to those who identify as female; it’s about balancing the divine feminine energy within all of us.
4. Surrender is Letting Go of the Mind’s Control
The mind loves to analyze, strategize, and solve problems. But the Twin Flame journey is not something the mind can “figure out.” Surrender involves releasing the mind’s grip and trusting the guidance of your soul.
Your soul—not your mind—is in charge of this journey. When you let go of mental control, you allow your higher self to take the lead.
How to Achieve True Surrender
Reaching a state of true surrender is not a one-time event. It’s a practice, a daily commitment to aligning with your soul energy. Here are some steps to help you on this path:
1. Ask Yourself: Who Am I?
The first step in surrendering is understanding who you truly are. This is not about your personality, roles, or ego-based identity. It’s about connecting with your essence, the part of you that is eternal and unchanging.
Spend time in meditation, journaling, or quiet reflection to explore this question deeply. The more you connect with your true self, the easier it becomes to surrender to it.
2. Release What Is Not You
Surrender involves letting go of anything that is not aligned with your soul. This includes fear-based beliefs, attachment to outcomes, and behaviors rooted in ego or control.
Ask yourself: What am I holding onto that no longer serves my highest good? Then, consciously choose to release it.
3. Dive Into Your Subconscious
Your subconscious mind holds the keys to your soul energy. Practices such as hypnosis, dream work, or guided visualizations can help you access this deeper part of yourself.
Imagine your subconscious as an ocean, and give yourself permission to dive into it fully. Trust that you will find clarity and alignment in this process.
4. Embrace the Present Moment
Surrender requires letting go of linear time and the illusion that happiness or union exists only in the future. The truth is, your soul’s frequency—and therefore your union—exists in the eternal now moment.
Practice mindfulness and presence. Bring your focus to the here and now, where your soul is always accessible.
5. Trust the Journey
Finally, surrender involves trusting that your soul knows the way. Even when the path feels unclear or challenging, have faith that everything is unfolding for your highest good.
Ready to Transform?: The Results of True Surrender
When you achieve true surrender, you step into a state of alignment with your soul energy. This alignment naturally magnetizes your Twin Flame’s physical form back to you, not through force or manipulation but through the universal law of resonance.
You also experience greater peace, clarity, and empowerment. Instead of being caught in cycles of fear or waiting, you become a master of your own energy, living from a place of joy and purpose.
Surrender is not about giving up. It’s about giving in—to your soul, your truth, and the divine flow of the universe. By surrendering, you reclaim your power as a co-creator of your reality and align with the frequency of unconditional love that is your essence.
If you’re ready to explore this process more deeply and align with your soul’s highest potential, consider joining my Twin Flame Alchemy Mastermind or exploring one of my free mini-courses. Remember, the journey is not about waiting for your Twin Flame’s return; it’s about returning to yourself. When you do, everything else naturally falls into place
Remember, your Twin Flame is your soul. Union isn’t about waiting for them to change; it’s about becoming the highest version of yourself. Let’s take this journey together.
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You’ve got this, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
With love and tough honesty,
Mary, The Twin Flame Alchemist