Myths About The Twin Flame Journey Debunked
Since you started your twin flame journey, what are some myths about twin flames that you can debunk?
As a Twin Flame Spiritual Alchemist.. I constantly get asked questions about what the Twin Flame journey is & how it works.
There are a plethora of myths and misrepresentation on the internet about twin flames and there seems to be no shortage of bad advice out there on what to do and what not to do.
And as I have personally experienced on my own Twin Flame journey, it seems that a lot of this mythology and misleading information that can actually backfire and unfortunately CAUSE a deeper divide between yourself on your path, your self-concept on the journey and your beloved in the 3D.
I am here to bust the most common and most damaging myths about the Twin Flame Journey… Here are my least favorite:
Myth #1: You Have To Try To Stop Thinking About Your Twin Flame.
There is a school of thought(no pun intended) that any thoughts about your twin flame at all are energetically repelling to them and they can’t be anywhere near you if you have any thoughts about them.
There is one teacher in particular that I had the misfortune of following ( it’s all part of the journey - I did ask my guides early on to show me exactly how to master this path - and boy oh boy, did they ever! - Including showing me what NOT to do. ) who constantly pushes his students to erase and block and stop thinking about their twin flame - and this is the thing that somehow magically will attract the twin flame back to you. This is very flawed logic… and here’s why:
To anyone who is experiencing the Twin Flame path - you may have experienced the OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS about your twin flame - It’s almost like your mind becomes possessed and they live rent free in your head 24/7. No matter what you try - you CANNOT stop thinking about them.
To clarify - Meditation to “clear the mind” is OK, and in fact it’s recommended.
However, to “TRY” to STOP THINKING about the Twin Flame - because, according to these teachings - Thoughts about your twin flame “pushes them away”, or “makes them run away” is pure folly and simply NOT POSSIBLE.
In simpler terms: It is not that you “are thinking about them” (as to try to STOP thinking about the twin flame is not possible)… It is WHAT ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT THEM. What are you thinking about YOU in relation to them & what they are doing, saying, thinking or feeling when things are upsetting you on the journey.
You must be aware of the content of your thoughts.
What are the thoughts you are actually thinking? If you can become the conscious awareness behind your thoughts… and detach from the thoughts by not identifying with them( or the negativity of them)… you can detach from the negative thoughts you are having - because the purpose of the journey is to help you shift what you’re thinking and assuming about them… and what you are assuming they are thinking about you.
TWIN FLAMES ARE QUANTUM ENTANGLED.
The one fact about Twin Flames is they share a Soul AND a Consciousness: this means that whatever you are thinking that they are thinking about you.. they are thinking about you - do you follow? So, the most important thing you can do on the Twin Flame journey is to be very mindful of your thoughts - your thoughts about yourself, and you thoughts about what your twin flame is thinking about you… are the thoughts loving and positive?… or, if you are reading this website… they may very well be negative and upsetting, & that is why you’re here. Just be aware of the quality of your thoughts.
Myth #2: You Can’t Want To Be With Your Twin Flame Because That Isn’t Spiritual.
OR “Twin Flames Are Not Supposed To Be Together.”
OR “If you desire a physical relationship with your Twin Flame, then you will never get one.”
Well, Well, Well. What do we have here… someone else’s limiting beliefs about what is and isn’t possible on the journey.
In these limiting beliefs we have a little splash of IDEOLOGY: fear-based doctrine derived from someone else’s personal beliefs. These limiting beliefs are colored by their personal disappointment and frustration on the journey.
But if you have heard anyone say any of these things… I would like to ask.. What do any of these beliefs have to do with your journey? NOTHING.
There are no rules on the Twin Flame journey. There are no regulations, no doctrine, no laws (except the laws of the universe). There are no right and wrong things to do. There is especially no “secret techniques or secret answers” to get the Twin Flame to come back to you that any teacher on the internet can tell you. This is a very individual journey - you and your Twin Flame share the same consciousness - your limiting beliefs and traumas, when triggered by your Twin Flame, will be manifested in physical reality in your connection. All of this is only happening inside of your own consciousness. So, do not pick up anyone else’s limiting beliefs - especially if those beliefs are causing you pain on the journey.
Any pain on the journey is a sign that you are not allowing yourself to be true to your deepest soul’s desires.
Picking up other people’s limiting beliefs can limit you on your journey. So just drop them and ask - What do I truly desire?
On the Twin Flame Journey, Our Desire is a Gift from the Stars
The word desire comes from the Latin desiderare: “to long for,” but the Latin desiderare comes from de sidere: “from the stars.” From the stars.
I find this extraordinary: to think that somehow our desire, our longing, is connected to the very stars in the sky. The stars, which share their light with us across such impossible distances of time and space. The poets might say our desire is a gift from the stars and is ultimately for them and the beauty and mystery and the creative fire and energy of which they are for us a sign.
I'm reminded of the very last line of Dante’s Divine Comedy -- Dante, the great medieval poet guided by his love for a human woman, Beatrice. In his imagination, his love and his longing for her lead him on a great journey all the way to Paradise and to a final vision of the love which moves and connects all things: l’amor che move il sole e le altre stelle... “the love that moves the sun and the other stars.”
This love that moves the sun and the stars is with you too, body and spirit, and with everything and everyone. If we can live out of that, the rest will take care of itself.
- Source
To fight against the DESIRE and deny it’s existence IS resistance and this causes great pain and separation on the Twin Flame journey. God put the desire there for a reason and desires are not bad, So, allow yourself to have your desire… accept it for what it is and allow it to be a part of you without feeling BAD about it. Just let it BE.
Myth #3: You Have To Be Perfectly Balanced All The Time Or Your Twin Flame Will Not Come Back.
Legalistically speaking, this is another impossible rule based myth… causing yet even more resistance and pain on the Twin Flame path. Your ego mind can use almost any teaching, but this teaching especially, to punish you for not being perfect enough, good enough or worthy enough for “UNION” on the journey.. Your ego mind will mete out your punishment which is: “The twin flame energetically can’t stand to be around your negativity or lack or need or desire( fill in the blanks) so that is why you are in separation. This is happening because you’re not doing it right, and if you were, obviously you would be in union.”
Again, this is a toxic limiting belief that your ego will use to keep your frustrated and stuck on the journey… where you are “trying to get to a specific vibration” where you will be rewarded for being a good little girl or boy - and the payoff is you magically magnetize the Twin Flame back to you - but only AFTER you have reached this perfect Nirvana-like state of enlightenment.
Just think about it… isn’t this belief just causing you to chase and / or push off your “union” until sometime in the future (which doesn’t exist) when you have found some way to improve or fix yourself of your brokenness - ie.. not being who you already are - in this present moment - which is already unconditionally loved and perfect. That’s not a very self-loving belief, is it?
Ironically, when you reach enlightenment, you will know that the beautiful thing about unconditional love is that you do’t have to DO anything or BE anything different from what you are already ARE. There is no doing and being needed to earn it. Unconditional Love just IS. All you have to do is RECEIVE it.
Myth #4: You Can’t “Manifest” Your Twin Flame.
Universal Law 101: You are always Manifesting - whether you know you are or not. If you have heard the teachers who say you can’t “manifest” your twin flame: A word to the wise - This is the most fraudulent of all of the misaligned beliefs and should send all of the alarm bells ringing and red flags waving in your mind if you ever hear it.
The reason why I saved this for last is because it is the BEST - It wins the prize for the dumbest myth because you are always manifesting your twin flame because you are quantum entangled - as you share a consciousness and a soul.
That means that whatever you see in your 3D IS your manifestation- especially with your twin flame. So take a good hard look at your 3D reality - What is manifesting in your 3D?… is your Twin Flame blocking you? Is your Twin Flame ghosting you? Are they triggering all your core wounds and traumas? That is their job… to mirror all of your wounds to you so that you can heal them. Are you paying close attention to what they are mirroring for you to heal? Remember, any pain on the journey is a sign that you are not in alignment with your purest, truest soul-self… so, what is out of alignment for you - that your Twin Flame will be mirroring to you through their behavior in the 3D. Time to take inventory and do some self-reflection. What is manifesting?
If you need help on the journey, or a neutral third party who can empathize and be your gentle guide on this sometimes challenging spiritual awakening path… please feel free to reach out.
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